Agenda / Comments:
 
The month is over and they have a few days before deciding whether to stay married or not. Spiritual advisor Greg Epstein said for a normal couple a month into a relationship they are starting to think if they should break up since the initial attraction begins to fade but these people are married so it would have to be a divorce. All the couples will meet with Greg for spiritual advisor sessions focusing on romance and asked to go on a first date.
The Couples:
 
 
Jamie & Doug
 
Dr. Joseph Cilona gave them homework to write down what they feel disappointed about that they did in the relationship. Doug talked about “the lie” involving the cigarette and how he shouldn’t have lied about something so small. He hopes it doesn’t ruin the trust that Jamie was starting to have in him. Jamie felt bad at how distant she was at the wedding and that she may have overreacted to “the lie”. Doug and Jamie take the dog to the dog park and discuss their expectations for their future. They mention how many kids they want, can they learn to trust more, etc.
 

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Doug doesn’t like that Jamie compares him to all the people that have wronged her in life. She knows that she lost trust in him after “the lie” but she wants to work on getting that back. I think Doug is definitely ready to stay with her but I’m not sure what Jamie will do. She only wants them to stay together because they know they have a future together. Greg is unsure if Jamie can get pass the trust issues or that she feels really connected to Doug enough to stay with him.
 
 
Doug asked Jamie what is the most romantic thing she has done for him and she can’t think of anything. He said she probably isn’t a romantic person and she interrupted saying she is when she is really in love. That upset Doug. I’m not sure why since it has only been a month. Dr. Pepper says that as far as romance, women want something grand and men want to be loved, held, and little thinks like that. Jamie asks Doug the question and he says cleaning up after the dog. Jamie jokes about them getting divorced and Doug worries what she is really thinking. Her mother and stepfather had a difficult relationship so she has a hard time thinking of marriage as forever.
 
It the one month anniversary and Doug took Jamie to a comedy club, performed his first open mic set, and dedicated it to her. They didn’t show all of his jokes. He did say he had to make them PG because his wife doesn’t like dirty jokes. That sucks for him I guess. No mention of her gift to him. Jamie arranged for them to have a photo shoot to try to replace the awkward wedding photos that had. I’m guessing that photo shoot counts as a gift. Doug said they still have not had sex yet.

Doug & Jamie

Doug & Jamie


 
Cortney & Jason
 
Cortney is very busy with her work and burlesque shows, so she volunteered Jason to perform in a show with her. He seems to be fine with it. Jason and Cortney both wonder how they will handle Jason’s upcoming schedule when he goes into the Fire Academy. Cortney and Jason go on a romantic dinner date on a boat. He said he doesn’t think of himself as romantic but he likes to do things for people so maybe so. I definitely prejudged Jason from his initial interviews. I figured as a pro wrestler he was picking up a new girl after ever show. I may have been wrong. He seems generally nice. Cortney feels like they are a real couple now. Jason’s instincts are telling him to step back and protect himself. I’m not sure if that means staying married or not. Jason talks to a friend about his commitment issues. He’s had women cheat on him and he is afraid that Cortney will leave although he seems to be prepared for it if it happens. Now I’m skeptical if Jason will stay with her.
 

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Greg is happy at the discoveries they are making as a couple. Cortney said they are strong people individually that came together as a strong couple. Jason is still working on letting someone else take care of him a bit.
 
 
Cortney got Jason tickets to Rocky on Broadway for their 1 month anniversary. He’s a big fan of Rocky which is good. I can’t imagine what that show is like. Cortney got a t-shirt with their wedding date on it and other things. There are 2 shirts with each of their names on it and the date. The other side has a fireman’s hat and says “Keep Calm and Carrion (Jason’s last name)”. It’s not as corny as it sounds; I think it’s creative. They got married March 23, 2014. I wondered when the show was taped. Cortney said she is falling in love with Jason so she knows what her choice is. She is worried about his decision.

Cortney & Jason

Cortney & Jason


 
Monet & Vaughn
 
Last week, they were asked to write letters of apology to each other. Now, they are exchanging them. Monet was sorry for not cooking him dinner often like he wants and if she had hurt his feelings with things she said. Vaughn apologized for his lack of patience and understanding. He wants to work on showing his best self. They seemed to like each other’s letters.
 

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Monet said some of the things she asked for in a husband come with other traits she may not like. You think? I know she is rethinking that traditional values stuff she was pushing especially since she doesn’t cook.
 
 
They realized they need to communicate more clearly and specifically. Now, they are discussing “traditional” roles. Monet basically called Vaughn chauvinistic. She thinks expected your wife to cook is chauvinistic. Vaughn uses the word “accommodating” and Monet talks of her mother being a stay at home mom but not being talked down to by her father. Also, she said she was raised to be opinionated and no one told her things she had to do as woman. Vaughn understands her point of view better.
 
For their first date, they decided to not talk about the past and act like they just met. Dr. Joseph is sure they are compatible even through the conflict. Vaughn asks Monet what her romantic fantasy would be. Monet just wants to feel there was effort put into it. His most perfect gift would be highlights from a UFC event. Where does Monet see herself in 5 years? Married with babies. Monet and Vaughn got each other watches. He thinks Monet is a great catch and he just wants her to fall in love with him. Vaughn and Monet discuss their decision but they are wary of divorce.

Vaughn & Monet

Vaughn & Monet


 
 
Fun Facts
 
Wedding anniversary gifts date back to medieval times. Husbands gave their wives silver and gold wreaths as crowns. Emily Post made a list of gifts increasing in value for specific anniversaries.

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